We've just come thru another fairly rough week with Elizabeth AND just had our 2nd attachment assessment/counseling appointment. I feel like I have lots of things floating around in my mind...things I want to share with y'all, but I'm running short on time tonight!
For a couple weeks now I've wanted to share a couple links with y'all.
The first is this blog The Mouro Family .
this blog has been so very helpful for me/us as we sorted thru Elizabeth's behaviors and how to address them...even before we started counseling.
If you go to their blog and look on the "labels" to the left -look for Attachment Issues...or you could just scroll thru her whole blog. :) Laura has learned so much as she has allowed God to direct their parenting of Ruthie/Abbie and navigate the scary world of attachment issues.
She really does a great job of explaining how to not battle these kids when they're trying to get you to battle. It has certainly helped John and I to understand it better.
If you are an adoptive parent, I highly recommend you at least skim thru The Mouro Family blog. Even if your child isn't dealing with attachment issues right now, they may in the future and just having some of this info in the back of your mind would be SO helpful!
The second link I wanted to post for you is this one. Glimmers of Joy and Signs of Hope . This is actually a post from my friend Carrie's blog. Carrie was our first family advocate at the agency we used to bring Elizabeth home. Not long after we were referred Elizabeth, Carrie and her hubby Jacob left the US to serve the Chinese people. They are currently serving in a foster home for special needs orphans. I read this post back when she first wrote it and thought -it's so dead on! And then Carrie reminded me of it a few weeks ago when I first started blogging about our attachment struggles with Elizabeth.
Anyone -adoptive parent or not -should read Carrie's blog. :) But especially the post I'm referencing. I think it's such a great perspective of adoption...and the sadness that is in these children's hearts.
Ok-that's it for tonight. Stay tuned for more attachment stuff later. :) It's been a rough week, but we're learning alot...about ourselves, about Elizabeth and what may be triggering her, how to recognize her insecurities building, how to try to make her feel more secure.
For a couple weeks now I've wanted to share a couple links with y'all.
The first is this blog The Mouro Family .
this blog has been so very helpful for me/us as we sorted thru Elizabeth's behaviors and how to address them...even before we started counseling.
If you go to their blog and look on the "labels" to the left -look for Attachment Issues...or you could just scroll thru her whole blog. :) Laura has learned so much as she has allowed God to direct their parenting of Ruthie/Abbie and navigate the scary world of attachment issues.
She really does a great job of explaining how to not battle these kids when they're trying to get you to battle. It has certainly helped John and I to understand it better.
If you are an adoptive parent, I highly recommend you at least skim thru The Mouro Family blog. Even if your child isn't dealing with attachment issues right now, they may in the future and just having some of this info in the back of your mind would be SO helpful!
The second link I wanted to post for you is this one. Glimmers of Joy and Signs of Hope . This is actually a post from my friend Carrie's blog. Carrie was our first family advocate at the agency we used to bring Elizabeth home. Not long after we were referred Elizabeth, Carrie and her hubby Jacob left the US to serve the Chinese people. They are currently serving in a foster home for special needs orphans. I read this post back when she first wrote it and thought -it's so dead on! And then Carrie reminded me of it a few weeks ago when I first started blogging about our attachment struggles with Elizabeth.
Anyone -adoptive parent or not -should read Carrie's blog. :) But especially the post I'm referencing. I think it's such a great perspective of adoption...and the sadness that is in these children's hearts.
Ok-that's it for tonight. Stay tuned for more attachment stuff later. :) It's been a rough week, but we're learning alot...about ourselves, about Elizabeth and what may be triggering her, how to recognize her insecurities building, how to try to make her feel more secure.
2 comments:
I love both of these blogs, Jeanette!
Thanks, Jeanette, for these resources!
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